The kids were playing cricket, It was Rohan’s turn to bat. He was very excited as he liked batting. Rohan prepared himself for the shot and swung the bat when he saw the ball come close. Unfortunately, he missed and the ball knocked the wickets; Rohan was out on the first ball. Frustrated from this, he threw the bat on the ground and started shouting “It was a fast ball, I should get another chance.” When his friend disagreed with this, Rohan angrily replied “You all are cheaters, I don’t want to play with you’ll” and went home.
At home, he sat on the couch making an angry face. His mom saw him and understood that he had a quarrel and that Rohan would now throw tamper tantrums all day. His mom was used to this behaviour of Rohan and she knew that he had problems with aggression. She had heard complaints from the school teachers, neighbours, and Rohan’s friends about his aggressive behaviour.
Rohan’s mom had made a plan to deal with his aggression problem and was waiting for the right moment. She got the opportunity that day. Normally, she would go and ask him what happened and entertain his aggression just to calm him down, which was strengthening this behaviour. But this time she avoided talking to Rohan and handling his temper tantrums. Seeing this unusual behaviour from his mom, the already frustrated Rohan himself went to his mom and told her everything that happened in the garden. Listening to Rohan, his mom said “If you got out then you should accept it, what is the point of being angry?” Rohan said that he was not out and that the other kids were cheating. To this, his mom replied, “Why would they cheat, child? After all, they are your friends. They will not cheat with you!” Rohan was silent hearing this.
His mother added, “In situations like this when you think that people are cheating with you or are not agreeing with you, you should try to think logically about who is right. Or you could talk it out with them. But you should never get angry or use aggression to deal with the situation.” Rohan gave a thought to what his mother said and came to the conclusion that she was correct. When next time he started to feel angry, he should try to think what was making him annoyed and think through the problem. He apologized to his mother and assured her that he would handle his aggression from then on.
What we learnt
It is essential for us to manage our negative emotions like aggression, frustration, or anger in every situation. Thinking logically could help us tackle our problems better.